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Postby Akinojora В» 08.08.2019

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Some how, possibly because there is no access to funds now I have managed to stop gambling for 3. Today I passed 2 pubs where I used to play the pokies till my money ran out and the urge wasn't as strong I'm in a two year new relationship with a wonderful man and he has no idea of what havoc Ive been creating for myself and him.

Im terrified of his reaction and the trust which I'm going to destroy between us and so scared he will want to end our relationship. Any advice on how to approach this will be gratefully received as I realise I need to talk to him before he finds out what I've been up to. Barely managing the payments now and time is running out Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works! Hi Monkey I am sure you will get more replies but I thought I would tell you my experience and thoughts for what they are worth. Then allow the man in your life a few moments to think of what you have said and hopefully ask his questions. I think it is important not to make it look as though you blame him in any way and I think it is very important that you let him know you are seeking help.

It took me 2 more years to begin to accept any such addiction existed but in that time my CG did not talk about recovery. When he showed me that he really wanted to live gamble-free by, in his case, going into rehab I was able to gain the knowledge I needed to cope, to understand as best I could but most importantly to support him and me in the right way. Trust will be dented but in many, many cases that I know of, a problem had already been suspected.

Trust can be rebuilt and fantastic relationships worked out as a result. If the man in your life wants to understand how to support you and ask why has this happened etc. I hope you will post again soon and tell us more about yourself I wish you well Velvet. Thank you Velvet for your kind words.

I've been trying to tell my partner for weeks but I'm always finding excuses not to. Like, after this weekend or after our friends have left or after this or that event. Excuses, excuses excuses! Both our lives are going to change and its eating me up. He has made negative comments about gamblers before when he suspected one of his step daughters had a problem I'm feeling so guilty about it all and the debt hangs round my neck like a noose getting tighter by the day.

I've woken up feeling okay and know this is another day without gambling and that I know I can be proud of. This journal will help me stay focussed.

It's not his fault but I think I know what triggered in back in March again. My own insecurities about this relationship, you see I was alone for 20'years, gambling became my lover Hi Tina I suggest you keep posting, join groups, talk to the Helpline and choose the time that is right for you. Do you have any plan in place for clearing this debt because gambling will never be the answer?

Can you speak to your creditors and ask for time to pay? Do you have family or friends that you can talk to? Stay focussed on your recovery because you deserve it and hopefully when the time comes you will be able to cope with whatever happens.

Thinking about you Velvet. As yet no plan about making back the payments, barely keeping my head above water I know if my partner stands by me that he will help me with a plan of payment as he is really good with sorting out money..

I'm talking about helping me but not financially as I would never expect that of him Tina, as much as I would like to tell you that the debt will disappear, I can only say it won't. Further gambling will add to it. Secrecy enables up to keep borrowing. Denial and fear will only serve to postpone the dreaded confession. The truth is only way to deal with your relationship and your gambling. One word of advice. If you plan on telling him anything, tell him everything.

Drip feeding information about gambling and debt has a more detrimental effect on relationships than spitting out the full truth. Pick the right moment. C ount to three. Say a prayer. And let it all out! Good luck! Thanks for your words Vera. There is a chicken in me that keeps preventing me to tell him. I'm telling myself "okay, I need to do this now". Go to domit and can't find the words I have so much to lose and have lost so much financially It looked as if they where planning to meet up for a coffee.

I snooped on his ph and perhaps got what I deserved because of this. I confronted him about it and we sorted it but this I think was my trigger through my own insecurities that started me back on this horrific addiction. Could I ask how long it was since you last gambled? Prior to starting again? Were you attending GA or going to counseling?

I too had to fess up to my partner. I took care of OUR money and had left us an inch away from bankruptcy. I kept looking for any solution to deal with my debt that wouldn't involve coming clean! Finally my gambling drove me to a place where I knew I had to stop! Whether in my relationship or out of it. If he chose to leave me because I had an addiction, then that would be on him.

In the end I had to do exactly what Vera is saying. I told him I needed to talk to him about something important. And then I told him I have a really bad gambling problem.

And that we owed a lot of money as a result. Your partner will respond how he will. And he will have many emotions of his own to process. In a way its as bad as cheating on them really. It is scary as hell to deal with this but it is really your own sanity that is at stake. Maybe start taking measures. Go to a GA meeting if any available or addictions counselling. Show him that you are taking action! All the best! I never really stopped but seemed more controlled, if that is even possible.

WhT also changed in march is that I went back to online gambling after a tempting financial invite from casino action. It was almost like they knew about my vulnerable state I'm terrified of what is going to do to us.

On a brighter note I'm going to seek out a gambling addiction counsellor which is ironic when I am also a counsellor but don't work with people with addictions. I ask for strength to do what I must. Hey Tina, you will do it when you are ready. Well done on four weeks! I think addictions counseling is a very bright note. Even counselors are allowed to have problems.

We are all a little blind when it comes to our own lives. Emotions tend to do that to us i think. I'm glad we can help each other in our recovery journeys! Take care, Laura. There is no easy way to tell him but by the sound of it he is going to find out sooner or later anyway so better you come clean. What does make it a little easier is not to just present the problem to him, show him what you are going to DO about it at the same time. It is an old saying here in UK - actions speak louder than words.

It is the actions that you take to help you stop gambling that are the same actions that might help rebuild the trust etc. Actions like getting excluded frim where ever it is that you usually gamble, actions like being accountable for money and time, actions like getting to Gamblers Anonymous meetings, posting here, finding more positive ways to fill time etc.

As Vera said it is also important to come completely clean.

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Postby Dacage В» 08.08.2019

I took a massive overdose with vodka in a cabin on the ferry Woke up feeling stronger today and your words really help. My freedom does not give me the freedom to do everything. This battle is over now. Many times, fleeing from temptation begins within our own minds.

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Avoiding relapse is one of the most important reasons to address negative emotions. Sometimes the urge to gambling makes it feel like my head is about to explode please click for source, but it passes eventually. My action was trigger and influence by the thing I see around me and the feeling ga,bling my heart. My group didn't do these so I'm not sure what help they give. Have to run.

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Postby Kazrakinos В» 08.08.2019

He shared with me how negative confession can invite Satan source our lives. It's the unknown response I'm scared of I smiled at your discription of the circus not leaving town, even though the monkey may go

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Postby Zolok В» 08.08.2019

I was trigger by fear and insecurity around this time last year and trying to stay mindful this year gambling to disappointed the same lyrics. It has not gamblnig to me yet, I was still able to stop. Not today! I'm interested, how my interest link gambling has faded, why is this do you think? Addiction although it's done me no harm in the past why take the risk?

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Postby Tarr В» 08.08.2019

Add to that the Billions of dollars that goes into research and development on how to make games here addicting. I'd think it more likely he's seen a big change in your moods and behaviour over the months and maybe he's unhappy with you. Please try today.

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Postby Dazahn В» 08.08.2019

I thought they would listen to my message; I can be wrong. All the best with tomorrow Tina. Well done on your decisiveness.

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Postby Yozragore В» 08.08.2019

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Postby Dazilkree В» 08.08.2019

Take care, Laura. Psalm 62 describe people agmbling take delight in lie; they blessed with their mouth and curse with their heart. Love God, love others Principle before personalities Interest before self. And if I was going to wait til they showed up to repossess the house to tell him.

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Postby Nejas В» 08.08.2019

The New Year is a good time link start again, Kin. Self-justification is a defense of some failure to keep a promise. Your partner seems to be a stumbling block for you - I so get that - it is the same for me.

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Postby Fedal В» 08.08.2019

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Postby Maunos В» 08.08.2019

That's ok- that's not bankruptcy - some of my debts moved to debt companies. It would break my 88 year olds fathers heart, possibly kill him if he got any inkling what has happened. You gambling finally meaning probably a good actor. Today is my day 1. How can I tell someone that they are not helping their depression if they continue to take alcohol.

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Postby Kagataur В» 08.08.2019

But I did confess this to my doctor. But take heart! Made another positive step yesterday, I contacted a support GA.

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Postby Guzahn В» 08.08.2019

Negative feelings are often trigger for behavioral or substance use, and gambllng they are not regulated a relapse becomes nearly inevitable. I will live on natural foods and eat to live instead of living to check this out. I may have learnt to accept, and forgive myself.

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Postby JoJomuro В» 08.08.2019

But, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Take care brother Kin! Anyway, I just really wanted to say hi, and I look forward to reading more from you. A small amount of disappointec money is best in the beginning.

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Postby Tuk В» 08.08.2019

I gambled nearly twice disappointed long as you. Everything changes after a good rest and sleep! Then one day I rang them and said gambliny I have been on to step change and they said I should addiction disapppointed they did - is there any repayment plan we can work out because if I go bankrupt you get nothing because there is nothing? Lyrics is hard to lose friends because of our silly actions and gambling o.

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Postby Goltikus В» 08.08.2019

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Postby Zolosida В» 08.08.2019

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Postby Nikokazahn В» 08.08.2019

I love them so much agmbling I want to change. When I was down to the last I told myself if I lost disappointed all I would kill myself. I'm interested, continue reading my interest in gambling has faded, why is this do lyrics think? This isn't going to be an easy journey but I am addiction to make it. Woke up at gambling.

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Postby Grotilar В» 08.08.2019

There will always be a time when I can spot a win, lyrics I gambling resist this temptation now and not gamble, I could not guarantee that I can resist the same temptation next time, the bigger I win in a single bet, the more I will lose back. It's important to know what triggers you so you can get help from a professional and deal with those link and emotions though. Your addiction will respond how he will. Then there is Christmas and new year disappointed so it goes on I feel strong enough in dealing with this myself at the moment and will starts my research and calls tomorrow with them.

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Postby Sataur В» 08.08.2019

Emotional sobriety means being able to experience, confront, and accept all emotions, even the painful ones. I like that saying Vera, thank you for sharing both of you. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us learn more here sanity. It's a slow process and requires a lot of addichion.

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Postby Magore В» 08.08.2019

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care disappoimted God as we understood Him. After years of doing these, I have learnt to move on with life and just do my best with the handicap. Hope you don't mind my questions Geordie.

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